Collars

Today is a very important day as we are going to buy my submissive her main collar. She is very excited about this as it is something that she needs to show that she is owned by me, and I am excited at the thought of fastening her collar and locking it in place, so it is a major step for us. We have talked about how much this means to both of us, and it is probably best for me to let my darling submissive say in her own words how it makes her feel.
For me buying the collar is only a part of the process - which finishes when I place it around her neck for the first time and hear the click as the lock fastens and see the look of adoration in her eyes as she knows that her submission is real and that she is wearing a symbol of ownership.

Lifestyles

My darling Lilith in her comments about my last post has said that for us our relationship is a lifestyle choice. The moment I made that choice my life changed for the better, for a start I now have my delicious little submissive who I never want to let go and secondly I am comfortable with who I am and how I want to live instead of trying to fit into vanilla society.
I am tired of people who try to make us feel guilty for celebrating the differences between men and women - we are not the same and what I want, and am lucky to have, is a woman who is proud to be a woman and who is soft and gentle, tender and very loving and who needs to be controlled and disciplined by her Master.

Discipline

One cornerstone of our relationship is discipline. My darling submissive needs to be given discipline out of love and my desire to make sure that she does all that her Master needs her to do and make sure that she learns how to serve and please me. Giving discipline is also extremely erotic and arousing for both Master and submissive and binds us closer together. But before anyone says this is kinky or just a fetish it is not, this is a lifestyle choice. My darling submits to me and the discipline I give her out of a positive choice and this is not a choice that could be made by someone who is weak. She is an incredibly strong woman who I have the utmost respect for as she has offered herself completely to me to use as I wish. In turn this allows me to be the Man I need to be and strengthens me. Essentially we have turned back the clock to a time well before feminism and look for strengths in each other rather than permanently trying to apologise for not being die Zwitter that the politically correct brigade want us all to be.
Hope this all makes sense my darling Lilith.

Domination

When my sweet little submissive begs me to be more strict and severe with her and the more aroused she becomes as a result, the more I feel that I am in the right place. In some way it makes me feel like a real man and I don't mean that in the way that men who go off to some post-feminist 'find yourself' workshop mean. I mean that I am in fully in touch with my sexuality and my need to be in control and my need dominate my woman and use her to get my pleasure, knowing that in return she gets pleasure from serving my needs.

Desire

One thing that I am finding is that as I get to know my sweet little submissive better I desire her more or perhaps more correctly I should say my desire to dominate her and control her grows with every day. Everything that she does to please me and to try to be obedient and dutiful also makes me want her more - she is also cheeky, disobedient and quite strong-willed about some things, not that I am complaining as this gives me the opportunity to give her the discipline that she needs and desires and in meeting her needs I also meet my own.

Living in Interesting Times

It is a very long time since I was involved in a relationship that feels as intense and exciting and so very right as the one I am in now with my beloved submissive and at last I feel whole. She makes me feel proud each and every day and with everything she does to please me I feel the bond between us growing. I intend to be the best Master I can be for her and show her just how precious she is to me every single day.

It's not easy to be D/s

Just in case anyone thinks that a D/s relationship is an easy thing and is based only on kinky sex let me put them right. There is a lot more honesty and sincerity in being someone's Master than in a lot of vanilla relationships, for a start there is a lot more negotiating and setting of boundaries which there needs to be when you have so much responsibility for, and power over, another person.
After all I have promised to protect my submissive and do nothing to harm her and than means mentally, physically, socially and spiritually so there is a lot to consider. And she in turn has promised to do everything I ask of her - so there is the responsibility once again to do no harm because of how much trust she has in me and to respect the priceless gift she has given to me - herself.